AJ
Sarcastic, direct, truthful, supportive, loving and caring, non-stop partner and Daddy
Loves Music almost anything and everything to do with music, everything about the kids and spending time with them, playing with them, caring for them, technology, being outside and 'taking adventures', creating/building, information and knowledge. (currently studying to be a personal trainer and thoroughly enjoying learning all the new information)
We have in depth conversations regularly and have the same or similar views and ideas on our life and what we want for our Montage Madness Family!
Through Naite's Aspergers AJ has discovered he has trait's and similar way of processing information as Aspergers. We have worked together to help understand why he does some of the things he does and gain some understanding so he can now stop and think it through to help manage break downs and over reactions. Sometimes messages and reactions still get mixed up but thankfully we are open with each other so AJ can discuss how he took it to me and we can work out why it was taken that way and how the situation was supposed to come across.
We have a fantastic relationship and can openly be ourselves with each other without judgment just silent understanding of each others personality and who we are!
BREANNA
Smart ass, analysing, normally can't sit still, down to earth, loving and caring, partner and Mummy
I love painting, drawing photography, building and anything and everything to do with art, gardening, cooking all of which I enjoy but am not really that good at. Joining in with the kids having fun being silly, making mess (even though I like things tidy I don't mind them making mess I know they are having fun and learning.. that's the most important thing), playing and generally having fun and involving them in what I do and adventures. Being outside, active and swimming I genuinely can't sit still. Organising, planning and routine. New experiences exploring and adventures.
I have known for a long time I show signs of Autism I don't cope well with change, or things that break my few routines I have without considerable warning. I have worked hard with this and can now be more spontaneous. YAY ME! I analyse every situation and possible outcomes. I think everything through and analyse before I speak. These traits though do help in the house most of the time (if they don't hinder us) as I instinctively know what the kids need reminding with to keep them in a general routine as well as assessing every possible reaction that could happen and how it will affect the kids and other possible ways to go about it to minimise anyones possible 'melt down modes' Sometimes all this thinking does get all to much for me but AJ is there for me to talk to and de-stress.
We really help to balance each other out and support each other with what hurdles come our way we always know we can do it together, it will work out and we will be there for each other with whatever we need! (and of course WITH COFFEE)
NAITE
Our LOUD, bright, talkative, energetic, informative and non-stop 8 year old who keeps our life interesting.
He loves DINOSAURS!!, reading information books, animals and documentaries, talking and talking and talking, science and experiments, riding his bike, exploring, playing rugby, drawing (including on himself LOL), face painting (mainly scars, tattoos and cuts), photograph and making movies/documentaries, being outside getting dirty, sandy and swimming.
He loves playing with Leila (most of the time) and just adores her!
He has high functioning Aspergers and we have worked with him and others for the last year to get him to the stage he is at now he has made a lot of progress and 'melt down modes' are down to a minimum!! YAY We have also made great progress with food and this seems to have helped his mood, energy and fitness. We have a mostly stable routine but don't get me wrong we still have many challenges and new things come up to work through. Every day is different and has the possibility for a new challenge but it keeps our life interesting (and of course sometimes stressful)
LEILA
Our full of beans, out there, cheeky, free spirited and independent
She loves food, any kind of mess, photography, being outdoors especially sand, water and swimming, animals, riding her bike, singing, music and dancing, painting and drawing, tormenting her brother, playing dinosaurs with him and taking her toys 'on a venture'
She looks up to Naite and constantly has to do what he is doing if she is not bossing him around that is!
Leila is so far a neuro-typical 2 almost 3 year old both her brothers are on the spectrum she loves them to bits and does copy them a lot so does pick up on 'ticks' this is why for now we feel she is not on the spectrum just coping 'ticks' and 'melt downs'
She see's her other brother and bio-father on Saturdays for a few hours at
Our wriggle worm who won't stop moving, beating me up and basically letting us know she is there!
SHE ARRIVED! The above still applies LOL
She is growing way too fast! She is impatient and does not want to wait to crawl, stand, walk, climb and run... She adores her brother and sister as much as they adore her and they always make her smile and laugh.
She is a magnet to anything small she shouldn't put in her mouth.. and basically my cute, smiley, little handful!
All our kids keep us on our toes!!
