I'll say one positive thing to come from the kids waking me up and keeping me up at 4 in the morning! (Oh so tired)
I seem to get more creative ideas! Either that or I'm just delusional from lack of sleep...
One thing just seems to lead to another and it keeps extending such as this one...
It started off noticing a recommendation on Facebook to like a page called 'being mommy' so I just had to check it out (I mean what else am I supposed to do at 4 in the morning when the girls decide it's playtime?) I then noticed a link to pictures about a dad and photograph portraits of his daughter, which lead me then to look at one about pictures a dad colors in during his down time, then to look at another, a mum who draws faces and then the daughter takes the picture and adds on bodies then, of course, another post about a mum and the drawings she did using baby nap time (I guess by that point I was jealous LOL)
I don't know how exactly I made a link to this maybe it was because I was hum.. let's call it 'multitask thinking' (how else do you think at 4am?) about dressing up and role playing with my daughter tomorrow in the DAY! Not playing at sleeping time.
(I'll admit though we have played dress-ups in the middle of the night before spontaneously she just looked too darn cute to to say 'no sleeptime' I know I'm a sucker but they are only young once and I like to take all the opportunities I can to have enjoy being with them)
As she told me someone said her shoes were 'scarlet shoes' not 'pretty girl shoes' as well as a few other things about the clothes SHE CHOOSES to wear.. she was starting to believe she wasn't pretty unless she wore the 'right clothes' THIS WAS DEFINITELY SOMETHING I DID NOT WANT MY DAUGHTER TO THINK OR FEEL
so rather than getting cranky at that person which would change nothing... I started setting out (not that we didnt always in someway anyway) to teach and show her that whatever she chooses to wear is pretty because SHE picked it and SHE loves it, people that matter are the ones who love you and accept you for who you are not what you wear, they don't try to change you and just because someone else doesn't like something doesn't mean you can't everybody is different and likes different things!
Always be yourself accept others the same way and don't be afraid to be or wear what you like.
Don't change yourself in anyway to be 'accepted' in someone else's eyes.
Soooo back to what it ALL led me to..
Writing a series of children's books for girls and have Leila help with the illustrations mainly about acceptance and that 'pretty' comes in many shapes and forms such as intelligence, kindness, strength and adventure (I'm not saying boys can't read them! They will just have girl lead charactures.. and hopefully reading them boys would also be able to see what true beauty is)
This then led me to the idea write a children's book for mainly for boys about strength (once again I'm not saying that girls can't read them! This series will just have boys as lead characters... and girls reading them can also see what true strength is) as I remembered Naite commenting about 'crying' and big boys are not strong if they cry and when he is grown up he will be strong if he doesn't cry because grown ups who cry are weak... He is a little older then Leila so we were able to talk to him about emotion and being able to have the confidence to show your emotion is strong, hiding emotion is weak (once again this is our personal opinion and the ideals we would like to show our children, the confidence to be yourself) So as he is very keen on story telling and drawing, I think we can use writing childrens stories together to reinforce acceptance and personal expression....
Now I just have to find the time to get some sleep and have the energy and time to follow up the idea properly! Bahaha I know I'm dreaming :P
♡ A dad's portraits of his daughter
♡ A dad's drawings from his kids coloured in
♡ A mum and daughter portraiture creation
♡ A mum's drawings added to babies sleep position
